Wonder Woman Bracelets

Dear Parents:

Yesterday, I was in a Theraplay session with a mother and her pre-teen daughter.  They were drawing on each other, as directed by their therapist–hehehe.  I love my job.  Anyway, the daughter drew these really cool designs on her mother’s forearms–wrist to elbow–that resembled Wonder Woman’s bracelets.

Wonder Woman (And the Male Equivalent, Whomever That Is–Captain America Maybe?)

Remember those?  Wonder Woman uses them sometimes as arm shields against evil weapons of the enemy.  And sometimes she just stands there looking all wonderful in them with her hands posed on her fabulous hips or crossed across her fabulous chest armor. I was thinking how great it would be if all parents of traumatized children had Wonder Woman arm bracelets to protect from the projective anger we inevitably receive from our children.

Oh, The Projection Of It All

You know what I mean?  When venom spews and spit flies; when hurtful insults zing and rants strike out; we parents could pull up our Wonder Woman shields to ricochet them off and effortlessly toss them aside. Nothing penetrates.  No harm done.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place
Center for Strengthening Relationships

That’s how we can be in the moment of a flipped lid, tantrum. We need to shield our tender hearts from the slings and arrows of outrageous projection. It is not about us, so we need to stay strong, shield, and shake it off–just like Wonder Woman and Taylor Swift.

I hate you–Zap!  You’re fat–Ka-Pow You’re stupid–Ka-Boom!  I wish you never took me–Fling!  You’re a stupid a**h***–Wham!    

Take Heart And A Little Sense of Humor

It’s important to have a little fun with the wild and wooly times.  If you don’t, you are in danger of getting a zinger right in your kisser. That kind of sounds nasty, but you know what I mean.

Love matters,

Ce

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