Too Much Freedom

If your child gets into shenanigans when outside your visual supervision, then YOU have given your child too much freedom.  This is on YOU, not your child.  How can that be, you say?
Calibrate freedom at the level for your child’s success–shoot low to guarantee it.  
I know this is contrary to awe-inspiring motivation posters about Aiming High, but you can rest assured your child will fail if you do so and they miss–over and over and over.  Continuous failure insures lack of confidence, low self-esteem, lack-luster motivation, and snail-speed executive function growth over time.  
Imagine what continuous success insures over time.  Yay-ah Baby.  That’s what I’m talkin’ about.
Love Matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
The Attach Place Logo The Attach Place provides a monthly no fee Trust-based Adoptive Parent Support Group in Sacramento, every 2nd Wednesday of each month.  Next group is April 8th. Come join us.  Online RSVP each month required.   Child care provided.
Next Trust-based Parent Workshop  is planned for March 14th and March 15th, 10am to 3pm each day,  in a back-to-back, two-day format. Sign up online at
Next Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop by Robin Blair, LMFT at The Attach Place is planned for April 17th, 18th and 19th.
The Attach Place supports The Wounded Warrior Project by providing free neurofeedback to veterans.  Feel free to send a soldier our way for an assessment and 20 session course of treatment.
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Baby steps lead to success.


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