Time is such a relative thing. Einstein was right, I guess. (Okay, all you scientists, let me have it.) As my son approached his 18th birthday, I felt time flying by. I actually wanted to slow it down just a little so I could savor the great progress he was making just before the big day. No such luck.
Once, when I was a teenager, I was the shotgun passenger in a little aluminum-can-car that spun fiercely around in circles on a black ice highway; and then, in this weird time distortion, came to a near stop facing backward on the wrong side of the road–it seemed like I could have opened the door and stepped out–before the car side-ended over a 500 foot cliff. Every revolution of the car down the mountain-side was in slow motion; one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight rolls before spearing itself on a baby pine tree growing parallel to the mountain side. We were suspended there by that spindly toothpick about 100 feet from river rocks below. The whole thing was surreal and I never thought of time the same again.
When my attachment challenged children were growing up, I experienced the relativity of time again. I felt like I was in a perpetual slow-mo Lifetime for Television movie, where time stood nearly still for 10 years. Only my wrinkles and my aging husband had any speed of note. Uh, let’s keep that between us, okay?
So, if you feel up close and personal with Einstein or whomever had that time is relative thought, take heart. Time really is relative and one day like the magic of movies it speeds up and you find that the perpetual slow-motion crash is over. YOU just need to make sure there is more than a toothpick holding you above the rocks, when it finally ends.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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