If your child doesn’t seem to fit the mold of the typical description of traumatized, attachment challenged children–sensory seeking, attention needy, shenanigan oriented, aggressive-and yet seems a little different, quiet, even withdrawn or overly compliant, you may have a befriender survivor. Befriend is another survival mode: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Feign Death, Befriend.
A child who spends her life in befriend survival mode is happy, charming, compliant, and seems somewhat empty, shallow, and often emotionally fragile. Befreinders slip through IEP cracks, because they do not cause problems in the classroom; however, do not let that fool you. Our befriender children are traumatized, too. They need support for their internalized fears, anxiety, and dissociation.
Just because those on the outside do not see that something is troubling your child doesn’t mean that what you experience is wrong. You know when you are not able to make a solid connection. You can feel it. If you feel it, get your family support. You still need it.
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The next 8-hr. Trust-based Therapeutic Parent Training is specially scheduled for one day–July 16th–from 9am to 5pm. We usually hold the training on two days, but this is an exception for those who cannot find time on two consecutive Saturdays to attend a training. For more information, go to https://www.attachplace.com. Childcare provided for an additional fee. Email email@example.com to register.