The No Know

How many times have you heard, “I know!” from your attachment challenged child?  Can’t imagine the number, right?
 
Don’t be fooled by the ferocious nodding and insistent remarks, accompanied by eye rolling, that make it seem like you are insulting their intelligence by giving them information. Many feel stupid, shame and even fear when they experience the vulnerability of their inexperience in the world. Most of our kids know a lot about survival but little practical about social engagement and living life in a satisfying way.  
 
Stop and gently check what they tell you they know.  Often they have only part of what they need to succeed.  Be sure to do it kindly and with empathy for that shame spiral that comes with not knowing it all.
Love Matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
The Attach Place Logo Next Trust-based Parent Course is planned for March 14th and March 15th, 10am to 3pm each day,  in a new back-to-back, two-day format. Save the dates.
Next Hold Me Tight Couples workshop by Robin Blair, LMFT at The Attach Place is planned for April 17th, 18th and 19th.
The Attach Place supports The Wounded Warrior Project by providing free neurofeedback to veterans.  Feel free to send a soldier our way for an assessment.
Feel free to send this link to friends or family members who you would like to sign-up for Daily YOU Time: Wisdom for Adoptive Parents.

Shame is often just under the surface. Go easy.
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