The Journey

Wisdom For Adoptive Parents

Dear Parent,

Just because the rock says JOY doesn’t mean you can always find it.

Adopting wounded children is like a spiritual journey to Mecca, the Mountaintop, the Wall. Kicking and screaming, you will have to surrender your pre-conceived notions of who you are, what you want, and how you live. You will fight for things you never knew you needed and against things you never thought existed. This journey will sweat you, bleed you, tear your heart out. It will require courage of warriors and strength of angels. You will find yourself flat on the floor, prostate and desperate. And ultimately you will rise up from the ashes like a brilliant phoenix never before witnessed by mere mortals. Out of nowhere you will fall on the sword to save a child’s soul, so lost and contorted there is no other way to get around the past transgressions held deep within.

ReJOYce in your persistence, your resilience, your tenacity to live each day as if it were the first one; the first day you set eyes–eyes of hope, of inspiration, of love–upon your precious child.

Love matters,

The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for February 20th and 27th from 12noon to 4pm. $200 per couple. Childcare available for $30 each day. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30pm to 7:30pm. Group and Childcare are Free.

Look for Ce Eshelman’s Upcoming Book

Drowning With My Hair On Fire

Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents

Expected Publication Date: February 15, 2016

Drowning with My Hair On Fire is a compilation of over 175 daily support letters to parents of adoptive children and other children from difficult beginnings. With a forward by Dave Ziegler, Ph.D. and a brief personal memoir, this publication is a response to blog-reader requests for a book of letters that can be easily returned to day after day, when inspiration is hard to find.

Praise for Drowning with My Hair On Fire…

This woman saved our family. This book will save your sanity! After years (and many therapists) of getting it wrong, Ce Eshelman got our traumatized family on the right path to attachment, sanity, and big big love. Ce’s unique therapy is grounded in the latest brain research, her own struggles raising traumatized children, and work with hundreds of families like ours. Her stories, contained in this book, are our stories: full of pain, confusion, hope, faith, love and practical magic that really works.

Elaine Smith, Adoptive Mother

Ce’s daily blog has been a lifesaver, particularly when days are most dreary and hopeless. Not only have her words of empathy proven to be priceless to our family, but I have often forwarded them on to others. Such a comfort to feel understood, with no judgment.

Patty O’Hair, Adoptive Mother

In a real sense “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” is a daily mediation of struggle, success, failure and getting up and trying again. If that sounds like too much to subject yourself to then don’t adopt a challenging child. And one more thing, shouldn’t we require prospective adoptive parents to read “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” rather than another ‘All they need is love’ manual?

Dave Ziegler, Ph.D., founder of Jasper Mountain Center and author of many books on raising children from difficult beginnings.

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