The Adoption Mission

 

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Wisdom For Adoptive Parents
Dear Parent,
There is emotional risk in adopting children.  If you don’t want to make raising a child your mission, then don’t do it.  Stick with the life you have. It’s okay to be without children.  It is okay.
You are not a bad person if you do not want to take on the ups and downs of raising children from difficult beginnings.  You are not selfish; you are self-interested.  It takes a dedication to raising children with complex trauma to do a good job, because that means you will do whatever it takes to heal the heart of your child–whatever it takes is full of sacrifice.  As much as I tell parents to keep themselves on the front burner, there is still more effort to be expended and less time for self-care over the long haul.
If you can embrace that, go adopt a child.  Right now.  Go do it.  There are so many children who need people who are on a mission to heal the heart of a very hurt child.
Love matters,
Ce
The Attach Place Center
The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for February 20th and 27th from 12noon to 4 pm.  $200 per couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.comand she will register you.
Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30 pm to 7:30 pm.  Group and childcare are free.
Look for Ce Eshelman’s Upcoming Book
Drowning With My Hair On Fire
Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents
Expected Release Date: February 15, 2016
Drowning with My Hair On Fire is a compilation of over 175 daily support letters to parents of adoptive children and other children from difficult beginnings.  With a Forward by Dave Ziegler, Ph.D. and a brief personal memoir, this publication is a response to blog-reader requests for a book of letters that can be easily returned to day after day, when inspiration is hard to find.
Praise for Drowning with My Hair On Fire
This woman saved our family. This book will save your sanity! After years (and many therapists) of getting it wrong, Ce Eshelman got our traumatized family on the right path to attachment, sanity, and big big love. Ce’s unique therapy is grounded in the latest brain research, her own struggles raising traumatized children, and work with hundreds of families like ours. Her stories, contained in this book, are our stories: full of pain, confusion, hope, faith, love and practical magic that really works.
Elaine Smith, Adoptive Mother
Ce’s daily blog has been a lifesaver, particularly when days are most dreary and hopeless.  Not only have her words of empathy proven to be priceless to our family, but I have often forwarded them on to others.  Such a comfort to feel understood, with no judgment.
Patty O’Hair, Adoptive Mother
Ce’s words provide insight and relief on so many levels: practical advice based on brain research on how to do this thing called “therapeutic parenting;” emotional balm when life with my attachment challenged child goes on tilt; deep empathy and understanding  because she’s walked in my shoes; refreshing honesty about her own struggles and failings; applause for a tiny step forward and encouragement to keep on going.  I need these words, sometimes like I need air to breathe!
 
You have been a God-send for our family.
Debi Zacharia, Adoptive Mother
In a real sense “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” is a daily mediation of struggle, success, failure and getting up and trying again.  If that sounds like too much to subject yourself to then don’t adopt a challenging child.  And one more thing, shouldn’t we require prospective adoptive parents to read “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” rather than another ‘All they need is love’ manual?
Dave Ziegler, Ph.D., founder of Jasper Mountain Center and author of many books on raising children from difficult beginnings.
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