Teaching the Value of Eyes

Dear Parents,

So much gets communicated through our eyes. Eyes focused upon another person in American culture means self and other respect (amongst other things). Recently, I overheard my 21-year-old daughter tell a friend of hers that she is so glad she was taught to make eye contact, because her boyfriend has such a hard time with it and she can really see now why it is so important.  The mommy in me was quietly doing the Snoopy Happy Dance because it took concerted effort to lovingly request eyes 400 (zillion) times in order to create that neuropathway she calls “eye contact.”

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In my opinion it is worth it to put in the effort to shape behavior that will cue relationship success in the future.  Remember, when asking for eyes from your children, be sure to use loving, soft eyes yourself.

Love matters,



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