Let me remind you that the first level of intervention, correction, is a playful request to try it again sweetie. If no is the reflexive answer, breathe, and give your second response, Okay, you can try it again later.
Your job is to require the redo before the very next time you give your child what s/he wants. It’s not a power struggle. It is a waiting game, a regulation game. Delayed gratification is now on your plate. It’s challenging, isn’t it? Our kids are challenged that way, too.
This form of correction needs to be the major form of intervention in your home. This is the way you get your child’s negative snark down and the respectful tone up. Try it.