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The Holidays Can Be Lovely With Children From Difficult Beginnings

Dear Parents,

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I just met up with my adult children for a pre-Thanksgiving gathering. I found myself marveling at how they are unfolding.  I mean that.  At 21 and 23, they are adults with lives of their own.  They are happy.  They have interests and friends and places to go and things to do.  They are grown up and I no longer worry about them. And that is the point of this post.

I worried way too much when my children were growing up.  Because they came from difficult beginnings and because their behavior was out of the ordinary, I fretted and worried and over controlled them.  I downright ruined every holiday.  Yes, it was me who ruined them, though at the time I quietly thought it was them ruining it for us.  I was wrong.

What I didn’t know how to do then was accept my children as they were.  I wanted them to be the way I wanted them.  You know, a lot more perfect.  Way less messy.  Seriously better mannered.  Definitely well regulated. I didn’t want their trauma to be impacting my holidays–pure and simple. Every year, every holiday I didn’ want that.  And, every year, every holiday they were who they were–traumatized, attachment reactive children from difficult beginnings.  Who needed to change in this situation?  Who had the most potential for change at the time?  Yep, it was me.

I could have accepted my life and my children. I could have changed my expectations and made the environment trauma-sensitive.  I could have been considerate of what they could tolerate and how long they could tolerate it.  Instead, I tried to fit them into my life the way it was before children and the way I thought other children were able to fit in.  My children weren’t other children; they were actually special with special needs during the holidays.  I could have been more loving and less worried about how they behaved. I could have been more flexible.

I learned a lot about myself while raising my children.  Much of what I learned was not pretty or pleasing to me.  Frankly, I wasn’t personally prepared for traumatized children.  I had to learn to be.  I had to learn to let them be.  I wish I knew then what I know now.

My children are unfolding in their adult lives according to their abilities.  That was always their trajectory.  My advice to my former self (who might resemble your current self): worry less, accept more.  I think that is the definition of love.

Happy Thanksgiving,

Ce

The Attach Place Upcoming Events Calendar

Trust-based Therapeutic Parenting Class for Parents of Children from Difficult Beginnings by Ce Eshelman, LMFT will be held in January 2019, from 10 am to 4 pm.  Childcare provided for an additional fee. CALVCB will reimburse this training. Register on our website!

AUTISM Support Group:  Monthly Strictly Social Autism Spectrum Disorder Night for Tweens (11 yrs – 16 yrs) at The Attach Place. Open to the public.  Look for new day in January TBD next year.  Gluten-free snacks provided. Please RSVP to Andrea@attachplace.com so we get enough snacks. This is a  monthly social group for the children; and caregivers will have an opportunity to connect, chat, and chill in a separate space. A donation of $0.00 to $5.00 will be accepted for food and supervision if you are able, but please don’t let that be an attendance barrier because the group is FREE.  ASD kids need a social life and this is a great way to make it happen.

UPCOMING ADOPTION SUPPORT GROUP facilitated by Ce Eshelman, LMFT:  Click Here to join our monthly  Adoptive/Foster Parent Support Group on December 12, 2018! Open to all parents/caregivers at no cost. Support Group is every 2nd Wednesday of every month from 6 pm to 8 pm at 3336 Bradshaw Road, Ste 175, Sacramento, CA 95827.

GIVE A BOOK OF SUPPORT TO A FELLOW PARENT ON THE ADOPTION JOURNEY: Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT.  Daily inspirational reading for those who sometimes find it hard to keep hope alive. There is hope for healing.  Buy from Amazon or get a discounted copy here.

Calling For A Revolution

Dear Parent,

I am on a soapbox today.  Don’t let any professional tell you that you are a bad parent because you need a break from your traumatized, attachment challenged child or if you think your child’s behavior is unsafe at home.  If your adopted child is tantrumming, self- and other-harming, ruling the roost, and challenging your authority at every turn out of fear related to his/her difficult beginnings, you may be suffering from Secondary Posttraumatic Stress. There is even something called Post Adoption Stress.  These are real experiences of loving parents everywhere who have adopted hurt and wounded children. It is phenomenally difficult to maintain one’s sanity while trying to heal these scared, scarred, and reactive little (and big) children. Unfortunately, because there are not enough respite resources and money to pay for consistent, competent childcare, adoptive parents fall prey to illness from stress–posttraumatic, post adoption stress.

Compounding the problem, if you happen to have trauma in your own childhood narrative, the likelihood of you coming down with a stress illness from the prolonged duress of raising challenging children is exponential.  If you doubt me, check out Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’s short TED Talk to hear the truth, THE EVIDENCE, about adverse childhood experiences (ACES) on all humans, children and parents alike.

It seems child welfare professionals (not individuals necessarily, but collectively) are having difficulty holding the dialect that loving parents are still loving parents when they get stressed out.  Loving parents can break down.  Breaking down does not mean one should not continue being a parent.  It may mean  child welfare agencies need to step it up. STEP IT UP!  Stop withholding funding, permissions, resources.  Stop putting parents down and holding them back.  STEP IT UP with more support directly into the purses of the parents who are ragged under the weight of trying to get what is needed for their children.

I am very deeply concerned that adoptive parents are being blamed by agencies, social welfare services, and adoption support organizations for not being able to whether the ill effects of childhood abuses on their adoptive children. Adoptive parents are getting the shaft, taken to task, called up on CPS charges, blamed in WRAP team meetings, and getting scorched and scorned behind closed clinical doors (where the motto is supposed to be “nothing about them–parents/children–without them.) This is happening simply because the adoptive parent ends up having posttraumatic symptoms directly resultant from the prolonged reactive, stressful behavior  on their own brain functions.  That was an ineloquent set of sentences, and I don’t give a care.  I mean every awkward word.

My views on this do not make me the most popular person in power’s that be circles and I can’t care about that more than I care about the families I see every day in my practice who are hurting and desperate for help.  I am not blaming the system.  I want to change the system.  I believe it has lost its collective way under the misguided belief that evidence-based interventions must all be tried and failed before creative, holistic ideas can be considered. We need to pull our heads out of…the sand.

I am calling for a revolution in post adoption services, a la Bernie Sanders and Black Lives Matter.  If $10,000 per month can be given by a county to a WRAP program to have meeting after meeting after meeting after meeting to no solid, tangible, evidence-based result for adoptive children, then adoptive parents ought to be given a shot at the same amount of money each month to acquire real, therapeutically trained, in-home supports that will actually help with the stress, remove some of the barriers to therapeutic attachment, and soothe the frayed nerves of adoptive parents who want nothing more than to be the loving, healing agents of change their children need.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,

Ce

Ce Eshelman, LMFT is an attachment therapist, adoptive mother, stepmother, guardian mother, dog/cat mother, grandmother, not her husband’s mother, and author of:

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Available on Amazon.com.

Neglect Damages A Baby’s Brain

Dear Parent,

All child abuse damages the brain of the child.  Let’s be 100% clear about that.  The research is in. It turns out that neglect in childhood actually impacts more of the developing brain than physical abuse.  Avoidant, dismissive, detached, absent, absent-minded, inconsistent, careless, disengaged, not-good-enough neglectful parenting prevents the regulatory, sensory, neurological, digestive, and sympathetic systems from wiring and firing properly from the git-go.

Damage from neglect lasts a lifetime and is often missed or misdiagnosed, so treatment is often non-existent or incorrect; that makes a sad situation worse.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,

Ce

To sign-up for daily Wisdom for Adoptive Parents, click here.

The next 8-hr. Trust-based Parent Training is scheduled in June 18th and 25th from 12 noon to 4 pm.  $200 per two person couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up, email ce@attachplace.com and I will register you.

TIME CHANGE: Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 6pm to 8pm.  Group and childcare are free.

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To buy your very own copy of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT, go toAmazon.com or www.attachplace.com/drowing-hair-fire.  Please be so kind as to leave a review on Amazon.  Thank you.

High Road Parenting

Dear Parents,

Dan Siegel, MD coined the term “high road parenting” in his book Parenting From the Inside Out–one of my favorites for helping parents understand their mission as parents and how to achieve it.  High road parenting isn’t any different from high road anything.

When one is cut off on the freeway, high road driving is called for–not the middle finger with a side of Mad Max road rage.  When one’s mother-in-law looks sideways at you while referring to today’s slackers, high road son-in-law behavior is ignoring the slight and offering her another piece of cherry pie.  When your partner, under stress, acts a tiny bit “hole-ish,” high road loving is to ask if you can do something to help–instead of “hole-ing” back an insult of greater proportion.  Where is the love, baby?

Taking the high road may seem like being a doormat, and I am not suggesting that at all. It is perfectly fine to kindly take care of yourself.  I am, however, saying that the world is a better place when people are attached to their own humanity and the humanity of others. Relationships are stronger when we treat them with love and respect in the face of adversity.  And parenting is healing when it is served up with a dose of kindness, empathy and sensitivity to the wounded hearts of our traumatized children.

The next time you get to a crossroads during a moment of heightened stress, take a moment; take a breath; and choose to take the higher road.  You and those around you will be grateful for your personal awareness and your dedication to being love in action.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,

Ce

To sign-up for daily Wisdom for Adoptive Parents, click here.

The next 8-hr. Trust-based Parent Training is scheduled in June (TBD) from 12 noon to 4 pm.  $200 per two person couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up, email Ce@attachplace.com and I will register you.

TIME CHANGE: Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 6pm to 8pm.  Group and childcare are free.

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To buy your very own copy of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT, go toAmazon.com or www.attachplace.com/drowing-hair-fire.  Please be so kind as to leave a review on Amazon.  Thank you.

Never Underestimate Dysregulation

Dear Parents,

I had a therapy session today with an eleven-year-old boy whose dysregulated state looked just like paranoid schizophrenia.  If his parents were not there to tell me he is not always that way, hands down, I would have misdiagnosed him.  He was dysregulated by my miscalculation about his tolerance for role play.  Instead of getting my point (which I genuinely thought he would), he became humiliated and interpreted me as simply mimicking him.  I didn’t mean to humiliate him though, and he couldn’t recover despite my apology.

That is a bad feeling.  I don’t usually use that method to break through a child’s defense and now I remember why.  It sometimes backfires in a big way.  I hope I can gain his trust back.

If you are a parent who is prone to sarcasm, you may have found yourself resorting to mimicry to get your point across to your attachment challenged child. Take a lesson from me, they have tender underbellies and little tolerance for the gut-stabbing feeling of humiliation. The wound can be deep and long lasting.

Make yourself as safe as you possibly can to the tender parts of your defense-protected child. Our children need to trust we will not hurt them.  I will be making great effort to get this young boy’s trust back.  If you have hurt your child, on purpose or by accident, work very hard to re-establish trust and safety by making a sincere apology and taking the high road every chance you get.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,

Ce

To sign-up for daily Wisdom for Adoptive Parents, click here.

The next 8-hr. Trust-based Parent Training is scheduled in June (TBD) from 12 noon to 4 pm.  $200 per two person couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up, email Ce@attachplace.com and I will register you.

TIME CHANGE: Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 6pm to 8pm.  Group and childcare are free.
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Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents

 

To buy your very own copy of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT, go to Amazon.com or www.attachplace.com/drowing-hair-fire.  Please be so kind as to leave a review on Amazon.  Thank you.

This Really Is My Life

Dear Parents,

I took my 20-year-old daughter for a psychiatric evaluation today.  I have somehow escaped this for the last two years, since she became an adult.  I offered to pay for an eval outside the Medi-Cal system in order to get a legitimate diagnosis and medication that is not dependent on the amount of money one can pay.  So, today was the day.

In a very short period of time, the psychiatrist leveled one of the diagnoses I knew would be given–Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In that moment my heart cracked open and my mother blood leaked out onto the floor.  If you are not a therapist, this diagnosis may mean nothing to you. However, the diagnosis is often considered the bane of a therapist’s existence when a person labeled with it walks across the threshold.

I am breaking the therapist code of silence right now, because, as a therapist, I am not supposed to say any of this out loud.  As a matter of fact, I am pretty sure I will be stoned for daring to speak this. Most therapists (though not all) only take one or two people labeled “Borderline” into their practice at a time.  Why is that, you might wonder?  It is because they are so difficult to treat.  BPD person’s are predominantly female and well known for love you/hate you outbursts.  They often burst out of therapy the way attachment challenged children outburst over parenting.

My daughter had love you/hate you outbursts from the day I brought her home at three-years-old.  And, she still does.  Reactive Attachment Disorder grown-up without successful intervention is often called Borderline Personality Disorder in women and Narcissistic Personality Disorder in men.

I want you to know that early, effective intervention is possible.  Healing is possible. You can change the trajectory of your sweet, attachment challenged child.  How?  With consistent, trust-based, brain-based, therapeutic parenting.  That is how.

When my children were young, I wish I knew then what I know now.  I desperately wish this.  Right now, I am pleased my daughter lives with me and I have a chance to help her heal from the horrible wounds of attachment trauma in early childhood.  It is never too late.  Never.  I know this in my bones.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,

Ce

To sign-up for daily Wisdom for Adoptive Parents, click here.

The next 8-hr. Trust-based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12 noon to 4 pm.  $200 per two person couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up, email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

TIME CHANGE: Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 6pm to 8pm.  Group and childcare are free.
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Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents

To buy your very own copy of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT, go to Amazon.com or www.attachplace.com/drowing-hair-fire.  Please be so kind as to leave a review on Amazon.  Thank you.

Parenting in the Internet Age

Dear Parents,

I know you know this.  Parenting was much simpler without the Internet.  When I was a teenager in a small town (pre Instagram and Deep Web surfing ), my parents had only drive around a few hangouts to find me red-handed with Boone’s Farm Strawberry Wine and Budweiser boyfriends behind the A&W Root Beer stand. No kidding.  This all seems rather bucolic now.

Children, especially teens who have difficulty in relationships are lured by the Internet into the dark underbelly of life they have no idea how to navigate.  Extreme sexuality, gender challenging, and cross-country would-be paramours are only the beginning.  The naivite of children from difficult beginnings turns the curious into victims of web trolls and pedophiles of the most devious sort.

One of my children is gender curious and not trusting me because I refuse to “support” the notion of a gender re-assignment decision that is relatively based on air.  I might be wrong, but I don’t think so. I’ve been here with other parents over the years and never thought I would face it myself.  Yet, here it is; out of the blue, like an angry seagull swooping down on the crown of my unsuspecting child.

Tough love tactics are all I have.  No phone.  No electronics.  No access to the Internet by any means.  There is gnashing of teeth and anger that actually scares me.  My mind wanders to my bedroom door where I no longer have a lock, and I am reminded of an earlier time with my other child, where I felt compelled to sleep with one eye open.

I survived that time.  I suspect I will survive this one, too.  Raising children who were previously traumatized and abandoned is an ongoing challenge to my parental senses. I keep wondering what I did in my last life to be living this one now.  Of course, I don’t believe in that…I just think about it sometimes.

Love matters,

Ce

You Are Invited!

Friends of The Attach Place are invited to celebrate:

Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents                                                

by Ce Eshelman, LMFT

Drowning with My Hair on Fire is a lifeline for adoptive parents trying to navigate the choppy waters of raising adopted children from difficult beginnings. Author Ce Eshelman’s beautiful heart really shines through in the hundreds of letters to parents to read each day when needing hope, inspiration, advice, direction, reminders, or practical help. She deeply understands them and the chaos of their lives and families because she was there, but is now able to give them the wisdom culled from reading every book on the subject, attending hundreds of seminars and workshops, years of her own therapy, and fearlessly facing her own mistakes. If you are raising a traumatized, attachment-challenged child, Ce is the friend you want, and this is the book you need.

“Ce is the real deal. She’s one of those rare gems who deeply cares about the people she serves. She is willing to freeze frame and blow up her mistakes for you to see so you can avoid the same pitfalls. She then points to the path of secure attachment. The book itself is a secure base you can return to again and again when things get difficult at home.”       —Jennifer Olden, LMFT, Certified EFT Therapist

Saturday, April 16th, 2016

11:30 am to 1:30 pm

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The Attach Place Center
The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

 3406 American River Drive,  Ste. D

Sacramento, CA 95864       

RSVP here.

Purchase your copy of the book here.

 

The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12noon to 4pm.  $200 per couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30pm to 7:30pm.  Group and childcare are free.

UPCOMING HOLD ME TIGHT WORKSHOP

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Jennifer Olden, LMFT presents a “Hold Me Tight” Couples Workshop at The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships in Sacramento, CA..  If you are looking to improve your relationship, this workshop will teach you how to create a stronger bond, lessen conflict, and increase trust and intimacy.  Based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s model for couples therapy:  Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Proven effective. Research based. Read more and register here.

Caught Cookie Handed

 

Dear Parents,

When your child looks at you like their hands are proverbially caught in the cookie jar, take a look at the way you discipline.  As a matter of fact, you might want to re-visit the origin of the word discipline–knowledge (Latin and Old English)  or punishment (Old French). I prefer the Latin root (no offense to the French). The Latin root of disciplining means to teach or create learned followers. Without realizing it, you may be scaring your children when you are correcting, rather than teaching them to be learned thinkers.

For correction or corrective parenting to work to support behavior change, you must have your relationship hat firmly affix to your own prefrontal cortex or you may be instilling fear of you into your child.  Fear of you is just that–fear of you.  Fear creates memory blocking cortisol to your child’s brain, effectively making you mute to your child’s learning center. The negative behavior you were trying to stomp out will persist in one form or another and your child will look caught or in trouble no matter what you are saying.

Be a gentle, sage teacher to your child and s/he will learn to be disciplined from the inside out.  That’s the best way to become a learned person with a solid sense of self in the face of adversities of life.

Love matters,

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Ce

Ce Eshelman, LMFT is the author of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents and an Attachment Specialist at The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships.

The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12noon to 4pm.  $200 per couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30pm to 7:30pm.  Group and childcare are free.

UPCOMING HOLD ME TIGHT WORKSHOP

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​Jennifer Olden, LMFT presents a ​“Hold Me Tight​”​ Couples Workshop at The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships in Sacramento, CA on May 28-29th.  If you are looking to improve your relationship​,​ this workshop will teach you how to create a stronger bond, lessen conflict, and increase trust and intimacy.  Based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s model for couples therapy:  Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Proven effective. Research based. ​Read more and register here.

Angry Wounded Girl

Dear Parent,

My 20-year-old daughter is a study in Reactive Attachment Disorder grown up into what could be diagnosed as Borderline Personality Disorder.  I am not going there.  My husband went there years ago, but he admittedly is an appraiser.  While he would like to think he knows everything; (also admittedly) he knows he doesn’t.

Whenever I set a small boundary with my daughter (now that she is back living at home), she erupts into an emotional hurricane, swirling between hating me and hating herself. She is victim and I am perpetrator.  She is worthless, and I am omnipotent. Everything is illogical and binary.

Life around my house is a chaotic, topsy turvy storm waiting for the calm aftermath.  The good news is that I find I love her more and more every day.

She has more insight now. She can see herself be over the top, out of control, desperate for security, and hellbent on creating chaos.  She sees herself right in the midst of it.  In that moment, she comes crawling, quietly crying into my bed, “Mommy, I am sorry.  I feel crazy.  I know you are trying to help me. I know you love me.  I appreciate you.  I can’t help these emotions.”  And I know for sure in my heart that she can’t.

I understand, honey.  I love you, and you will get through this.  We will get through this.  

Love matters,

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Ce

UPCOMING HOLD ME TIGHT WORKSHOP

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​Jennifer Olden, LMFT presents a ​“Hold Me Tight​”​ Couples Workshop at The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships in Sacramento, CA on May 28-29th.  If you are looking to improve your relationship​,​ this workshop will teach you how to create a stronger bond, lessen conflict, and increase trust and intimacy.  Based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s model for couples therapy:  Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Proven effective. Research based. ​Read more and register here.

The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12noon to 4pm.  $200 per couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30pm to 7:30pm.  Group and childcare are free.
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The public is invited to celebrate Ce Eshelman, LMFT’s new book, Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents at an open house with brunch bites and bubbly on April 16th, 2016, from 11:30am to 1:30pm.  RSVP here.  Probably not the best event for children though.
To purchase a book click here or go toAmazon.com. Leave a review, when you can.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reflexive Reactions

Dear Parents,

I live with 4 adult children from difficult beginnings and my ears are being assailed by explanations, reasons, lies, excuses, and arguments.  Any sentence I speak that ends with a question mark is met by reflexive survival reactions designed to say, Whatever it is you might be asking (which I probably didn’t fully hear), I didn’t do it; I am not bad; you are wrong; there are reasons.  

Me:  Did anyone see my old Mac around?  

Collective Them:  No, I’ve never touched it.  No, I have never seen it.  I didn’t even know it was missing, so I didn’t take it. I didn’t use it, Mom.

Me:  Whose clothes are in the dryer?  

Collective Them:  Not mine.  His, I didn’t touch the dryer.  I haven’t done mine this week at all.   I didn’t see who did it.

Me:  Who has my tweezers?  

Collective Them:  I have my own.  I never use tweezers.  I don’t even know where you keep your tweezers.  Don’t ask me.

Me:  Are all the chores done?

Collective Them:  Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

Me: Right. Get them done before dinner, please.

Me: Whose music is blasting?

Collective Them:  Not mine. Not mine. Not mine. Not mine.

Me: Clearly it’s mine. Whoever’s music isn’t blasting, turn it down.

The quickest way for me to find out who is home is to yell out a question–the reflexive, survival responses are lightning strikes off their tongues.  Poor babies.  Every last one of them is scared to death of being “bad,” and not one of them actually is.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,

Ce

UPCOMING HOLD ME TIGHT WORKSHOP

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​Jennifer Olden, LMFT presents a ​“Hold Me Tight​”​ Couples Workshop at The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships in Sacramento, CA on May 28-29th.  If you are looking to improve your relationship​,​ this workshop will teach you how to create a stronger bond, lessen conflict, and increase trust and intimacy.  Based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s model for couples therapy:  Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Proven effective. Research based. ​Read more and register here.

The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12noon to 4pm.  $200 per couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30pm to 7:30pm.  Group and childcare are free.
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The public is invited to celebrate Ce Eshelman, LMFT’s new book, Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents at an open house with brunch bites and bubbly on April 16th, 2016, from 11:30am to 1:30pm.  RSVP here.  Probably not the best event for children though.
To purchase a book click here or go toAmazon.com. Leave a review, when you can.