It’s the middle of the week. What are you doing for yourself today?
Some of you parents have this down pat. Raise your hand if this is you. To you, I give maximum applause, and ovation even. You have figured out that the best way to care for your special needs child(ren) is to start with yourself. Bravissimo!
If your hand lifted a little, but not all the way: Good for you! You are on your way to better parenting through self-care.
The rest of you–hands still on the keyboard–you are not alone. Many of us have trouble making this paradigm shift. What can I do to encourage you?
Okay, here goes. One question: Have you lost your patience, temper, sanity with your child in the past week?
Then take a break and do something you haven’t done in a long time that would feel good. REGULATE.
Need ideas? Here goes.
Eat a slice of cake from that bakery you love (Ignore calories today.)
Go for a hike to a lake, up a hill, around the block.
Go to the gym and work out; or don’t work out and soak in the hot tub or steam yourself in the sauna or read a trashy zine by the pool.
Take a scented bath.
Chat with a friend over tea and biscuits.
Take a slow walk in a place without playgrounds.
Eat a PB&J sandwich on a park bench with good people watching opportunities.
Check out a new art or museum installation.
Make your bed, open the windows, and lay naked in the breeze. Am I the only person who loves doing that?
Read a mindless romance novel or People Magazine will do.
Watch a R-rated movie in the middle of the day.
Make a beautiful, tasty salad for yourself just the way you like it–add lots of kid-hated veggies with grown up dressing.
Do a youtube Chi Gong session.
Clear off your messiest counter top.
Listen to music from the years you most loved music. Turn it up loud. Dance. Belt it out.
Make something, paint something, break something.
Do something you usually don’t let yourself do.
Have sex in the middle of the afternoon. No partner? So. Do it anyway. It feels good.
The best parent is the one with the most rest. Rest can look a bunch of different ways. Pick one.
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