Dear Parents,

I have been giving one to two all day trainings each month in Northern California since October, 2016.  Probably because I published a book.  Before the book, I trained therapists, social workers, and parents about four times a year outside my office and six times a year in my office.

Trust-based Therapeutic Intervention

Here is the shocking thing.  Every time I give my training on Trust-based Relational Intervention which includes my thoughts on therapeutic attachment parenting for children outside my office, I find most people in attendance filled with an amazing amount of gratitude.  What I have to say seems to resonate with them.  Karyn Purvis and David Cross are originally responsible for bringing this attachment and trauma research together into a cohesive model–TBRI.  I add some of my experience to that material and it becomes relevant–relevant to the lives of people who are raising children from difficult beginnings.

A Blind Eye

Forgive me for my naivete’, but this still amazes me.  In 2017, why in the world hasn’t every U.S. county and state, all adoption agencies, and infinitesimal numbers of mental health organizations jumped on board the kind of therapeutic parenting that will help heal the hearts of  these wounded parents and children? Why haven’t they?

Keep Yourself Knowledgeable To See If What Is Offered Is For YOU

The Attach Place

The Attach Place
Center for Strengthening Relationships

I really don’t know the answer.  What I do know is that all evidence-based models are not the same. PCIT is not for all children, especially the most wounded.  Love and Logic does not work for children who do not have typical access to their prefrontal cortices.  Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a good cookie cutter, but not always a wise path because it often re-traumatizes children. Wisdom Path and Nurtured Heart are great, but they don’t tell the whole story.  Is this political?  I have no idea.

Stand Your Ground If You Have to, Warrior Parents

I seriously hope not.  Our children cannot afford to be caught up in political schemes.  Parents of children  from difficult beginnings need real “access” to services that will actually help to reduce emotional dysregulation from attachment breach and trauma, address traumatic emotional wounds, strengthen the attachment bonds between children and parents,  and soothe the wounded hearts of children in school settings and other community spaces across our nation.

Apparently, this is soap box night for me.  Thank you for hanging in here.  You rock!

Love matters.  Carry on, parents.  Carry on.



If you are going to our upcoming  Trust-based Therapeutic Parenting course at The Attach Place, sign up here.  April 1, 2017 from 10am to 5pm.  Childcare provided for an extra fee.  This course can be paid for by CALVCP if you are already approved.

Join our monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group on April 12th, 2017! Open to all caregivers at no cost. Support group is every 2nd Wednesday of every month from 6pm to 8pm at 3336 Bradshaw Road, Ste 175, Sacramento, CA 95827. Child care provided for free.

Get your specially discounted copy of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT.  Daily inspirational reading for those who sometimes find it hard to keep hope alive. There is hope for healing.

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