Pigeon Holes Are Tricky

What we believe about ourselves, we manifest.  What we believe about our children, they become.  Be careful what YOU believe.
 
All day today I thought my son didn’t get up in time to go to school. At some point during the day I sent a note to his school saying so. Then in the afternoon I texted him a reminder that no school means no computer.  He texted me back, “I’m on my way home from school now Mom.”  
 
Wha?
 
Because he woke himself up by his own alarm, left no crumbs across the kitchen, and exited kindly without a peep so as not to awaken me from my sleep, I thought he was still cocooned behind his closed bedroom door.  I left for work believing he, as usual, did not get himself up and, as promised, I was stridently refusing to be his alarm clock.
 
My son is pigeon holed in my mind by my beliefs about him.  It is wrong of me. He can be a good family member.  He was this morning.  Once he “gets” something, he usually gets it for good. Of course, there are relapses, but my pigeon hole is not going to be the reason.
 
What do you believe about your attachment challenged child?  
Love Matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
The Attach Place

The Attach Place
Center for Strengthening Relationships

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