You are made of true grit. I know you are because I am in your presence all day long every day. You amaze me, lift me, humble me with your tenacity to heal your wounded children.
You parents are regularly faced with keeping your children safe by choosing between restraining, closing them inside a room, or chasing them through the house, down the street, and around the corner. How do those things even rate as choices?
I know you feel horrible about some of the things you have to do to contain the pain, the hurt, the grief, the rage. It is as though you must inflict harm to reduce harm. The internal turmoil alone is tormenting, yet you carry on like holding these contradictions is simply part of walking through the dark side of raising children who refuse to be parented.
Here is what I learned from raising my own wounded children: little by little, they change. They grow up, and they grow more aware. They may not be everything you imagined at the start, but there is definitely a payoff down the road. When you get there, you will actually feel delighted that you took this harrowing road less travelled. You may have to trust me on this.
The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12noon to 4pm. $200 per couple. Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.