Your mission, whether you choose to accept it or not, is to be the change agent in the worldview of your adopted child. We all get our personal worldviews between conception and two years old. No kidding. That has always been kind of scary to me. Before we can talk and before we have identities apart from our caregivers, we learn the world is safe or scary, that we are lovable or unlovable, and that our needs will be met or not. If we get the unsafe, unloveable, unwanted worldview, we internalize that the world is a hostile place, we are bad actors in it, and we have to go it alone to figure out how to survive. If we get the safe, loveable, wanted worldview, we internalize that the world is a safe place, we are good and lovable actors in it, and we can trust ourselves and depend on those close to us for our well-being.
Whichever worldview we get, we keep it until something deliberate happens in our lives profoundly and consistently enough that our worldview gets re-written with a new pen and a better outcome.
You are the Internal Worldview Script Doctor re-writing over the previous storyline and creating a more integrated personal story for your child. They say we all have at least one masterpiece in us. Your child(ren) may be your greatest work(s) of art.
Sacramento Local Events:
NEW! AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDER (ASD) CO-ED SOCIAL GROUP for Tweens (older 11-years-old through younger 15-years-old) at The Attach Place. November 6th, 2017 from 5:30 to 7:30 pm will be the first social group for ASD tweens. Pizza and drinks will be provided. Please RSVP to Andrea@attachplace.com. This is a no-cost monthly social group for the children, and parents will have an opportunity to socialize, chill, or maybe read a book in a separate space, too.
NEW! FRIENDSHIP SOCIAL SKILLS GROUPS FOR CHILDREN WITH DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA. The groups will be low-cost, CALVCP payment eligible, structured, and fun, too. Details coming soon.
UPCOMING ADOPTION SUPPORT GROUP facilitated by Ce Eshelman, LMFT: Join our monthly Adoptive/Foster Parent Support Group on November 8th, 2017! Open to all parents/caregivers at no cost. Support Group is every 2nd Wednesday of every month from 6 pm to 8 pm at 3336 Bradshaw Road, Ste 175, Sacramento, CA 95827.
TRY MY BOOK FOR DAILY SUPPORT: Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT. Daily inspirational reading for those who sometimes find it hard to keep hope alive. There is hope for healing.