Painful World View of Some Adoptive Children

Dear Parents,

The Attach Place

The Attach Place
Center for Strengthening Relationships

Your mission, whether you choose to accept it or not, is to be the change agent in the worldview of your adopted child.  We all get our personal worldviews between conception and two years old. No kidding. That has always been kind of scary to me. Before we can talk and before we have identities apart from our caregivers, we learn the world is safe or scary, that we are lovable or unlovable, and that our needs will be met or not.  If we get the unsafe, unloveable, unwanted worldview, we internalize that the world is a hostile place, we are bad actors in it, and we have to go it alone to figure out how to survive.  If we get the safe, loveable, wanted worldview, we internalize that the world is a safe place, we are good and lovable actors in it, and we can trust ourselves and depend on those close to us for our well-being.

Whichever worldview we get, we keep it until something deliberate happens in our lives profoundly and consistently enough that our worldview gets re-written with a new pen and a better outcome.

You are the Internal Worldview Script Doctor re-writing over the previous storyline and creating a more integrated personal story for your child.  They say we all have at least one masterpiece in us. Your child(ren) may be your greatest work(s) of art.

Love Matters,


Sacramento Local Events: 

CAFA’s FREE Respite Program provides temporary relief for adoptive families living in or who have adopted through Sacramento County. Respite provides a positive experience for both the parent and the child. While families may take great joy in providing care for their loved ones, the physical and emotional consequences for the family caregiver can be overwhelming without some support, such as respite. Respite provides a break for the whole family, which research shows, is beneficial for everyone involved. Respite is available to kids aged 4-17.Children will be supervised by staff experienced in teaching social skills and positive peer interaction. Children will get the opportunity to participate in activities like sports, playing team building games, art, crafts and more.
Lunch is provided!
When: November 11th, 2017 (New Date)
Time: 10am-3pm
More details and to Register go

NEW!  AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDER (ASD) CO-ED SOCIAL GROUP for Tweens (older 11-years-old through younger 15-years-old) at The Attach Place. November 6th, 2017 from 5:30 to 7:30 pm will be the first social group for ASD tweens. Pizza and drinks will be provided. Please RSVP to This is a no-cost monthly social group for the children, and parents will have an opportunity to socialize, chill, or maybe read a book in a separate space, too.

NEW!  FRIENDSHIP SOCIAL SKILLS GROUPS FOR CHILDREN WITH DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA.  The groups will be low-cost, CALVCP payment eligible, structured, and fun, too.  Details coming soon.

UPCOMING ADOPTION SUPPORT GROUP facilitated by Ce Eshelman, LMFT:  Join our monthly Adoptive/Foster Parent Support Group on November 8th, 2017! Open to all parents/caregivers at no cost. Support Group is every 2nd Wednesday of every month from 6 pm to 8 pm at 3336 Bradshaw Road, Ste 175, Sacramento, CA 95827.

TRY MY BOOK FOR DAILY SUPPORT: Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman, LMFT.  Daily inspirational reading for those who sometimes find it hard to keep hope alive. There is hope for healing.

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