Narcissistic Wounding

I don’t want to go all Freudian on you, but that rage that you encounter in your children (and sometimes inside yourself); the kind where you want to scream something that will cut your partner, child, best friend to the core over some little slight; the one that overtakes your children and turns them into flailing, spewing, rage machines; that kind of rage; it is called narcissistic rage from narcissistic wounding in the early developmental years when there was a parenting failure of some kind and the child, at the time, is left feeling both wrathfully bad about him or herself and concomitantly angry at the person who failed him/her.

Our children often have this kind of rage because most of them were failed in the early developmental years. YOU may also have it because YOU were failed in your early Hot Tamalesdevelopmental years. That combo plate makes for a home like a hot tamale, where children feel hatefully bad about themselves and, simultaneously, overwhelming anger at their parents, and YOU experience the same thing in return.
If your home is a hot tamale, get some help for your family. Seriously, YOU cannot resolve things on your own. Trust me on this. YOU need your own heart repaired before you can revive the heart of your child. It’s the old oxygen mask analogy: in case the airplane cabin looses oxygen, put your mask on before placing one on your child.

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