Sharing power is one of the best ways to get your challenging child to be a bit less, well, challenging. When your child resists shifting from one thing to another, try this magic question:
Okay Sweetie Pie, time to go to bed.
“Noooooooo!!! I’m not done!”
How much more time do you think you need? This is the magic question.
Let’s compromise–five more minutes.
Two minutes later, he is done and down the hall to the bedroom.
I know you don’t believe me, so start small and build up to bedtime.
Once my son had been sick in bed for two days. I asked him, How much more time do you think you need?
“Uhh, I’m pretty sick. My stomach really has been hurting. Uh, a week?”
Let’s compromise–you’re getting your butt to school to-mor-row.
“It was worth a try, Mom.”
We giggled. He went to school the next day.
Wow, crazy as it seems, I have raised a seriously reasonable kid. I worried that would never happen. I often had pathetically low faith, coupled with monumental fear. Good thing I kept putting one foot in front of the other. Just like you.
Keep the faith. Keep walking forward.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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Sometimes having faith in our challenged kids is like taking cough syrup when your cough has kept you up for three nights straight. You know you have to do it to sleep, and you also know you seriously have to gag it down. Well, that is a pleasant comparison.