This weekend The Attach Place held a small and wonderful Hold Me Tight Workshop for parents like YOU. A good time was had by all, except one little guy who I ended up restraining. Yep, you heard it here. I had to restrain one of the children in child-care who was harming his siblings and himself. It had been a long time since I held a child “against his will,” which is a terrible feeling. Sometimes holding is the only way to keep everyone safe.
In that moment I was hurled back in time when restraining my children was a daily event. While I was stroking the forehead of this little boy to soothe him, I was filled with love for him and his parents. Simultaneously, I felt a kind of forgiveness wash over me for the mother I had to be 10 years ago.
We do what we have to do. Shame is not required.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
Next Trust-based Relational Parent Training is scheduled for May 10th and 17th. It is close to full already, so go to www.attachplace.com to register soon to reserve your space.
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