Love Trumps Fear

Dear Parent,

Fear makes parents overreact to their children’s behavior–fear of safety, fear of CPS, fear of danger, fear of law enforcement, fear of self-harm, fear of other-harm, fear of property damage, fear of the future, fear of criminality, fear of immorality, fear of lying, fear of judgments, fear of getting out of control, fear of not being in control, fear of losing power, fear of everything falling apart, fear of what others think.  I am sure I missed a bunch.

The Attach Place
Center for Strengthening Relationships

Fear over your children’s behavior is a false alarm brought on by the fierce repetitive demands of parenting children from difficult beginnings. You can change your fear reaction by changing your mind.  Decide your child is hurting, rather than dangerous. That will make it easier for you to empathize with what is causing the behavior.

Meet the need behind the behavior and your child will eventually feel safe enough to accept your love at face value.  In the meantime, expect your child to see your love and guidance through the lens of doubt.  They usually come by their skepticism righteously, because of the hardwired experience from those who came before you.

Love matters,

Ce

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