Love Matters Bootcamp Day 1

I am so excited.  I must be, because it is 5am and I am up and ready to roll. The Attach Place is in “Love Matters” Bootcamp–Day 1–with a family of six from out-of-town. Bootcamp is an attachment-intensive therapeutic dose of family healing–no boots required.
Come along for part of the ride by trying on something new each day for two weeks that can help propel your relationship with your attachment challenged child forward.  Since it is Spring Break for most kids, this might be a good time to pump up the volume on the heart of things.
Day 1–Try This:
Get out a nice fancy piece of paper, giant poster board, or even a recycled lined notebook sheet (if that’s what you have.)  During snack time today, put a nice treat on the table and tell your child(ren) that YOU really want to acknowledge his/her “fabulousness.”  Then, proceed to write down on that paper (big and celebratory or small and humble) your child’s strengths.  YOU start with one strength and then ask your child for another.  If you have more than one child, have everyone contribute a strength for that child.  Repeat until your brainstorm naturally runs out.
If you have lots of children, this is a great opportunity to take turns around the table shining on everyone in round robin style.  Make it quick and light, being sure to stop before the fun runs out.  If your child(ren) gets into it, then make an art project out of it by having your child draw/color a picture of him or herself being all these wonderful qualities at once.  Pin it up somewhere public.
If this activity goes sideways, it will likely be because of shame hiding in the background.  No worries.  Take over, list a few strengths YOU see, and quickly stick the paper on the frig with a magnet. Your child is watching, so don’t let shame reign. Be proud. Be delighted. Be done.
See YOU on Love Matters Bootcamp–Day 2.  
Love Matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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Next 10-hr. Trust-based Parenting Course  is planned for May 16th and May 23th, 10am to 3pm each day.  Child care provided for an extra fee. Sign-up online at
Next Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop by Robin Blair, LMFT at The Attach Place is planned for April 17th, 18th and 19th.
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Resist letting your child’s hardwired shame rule the day or draw yours out.


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