Letting Go

Dear Parents,

I have been parenting my children fiercely for so long I am finding it difficult to stop the daily process of shared power and control–carrying half the responsibility for getting them up in the morning, dressing appropriately, eating well enough, clean bodies and environment, engaging in the world pro-socially, enjoying hobbies some and not too much.  This may seem like it was all my kids’ responsibility in the first place; but children from difficult beginnings need a lot of mentoring to do the little things regularly and well enough to be successful.

Committing to their launch into adulthood means resisting the urge to carry more than my share.  It means letting some of the chips fall.  I hate that.  I have been keeping my children safe for years, and now they must transition to keeping themselves safe.  I am scared for them.  They are scared, too.

Frankly, I will always be here in the background to catch them if they are about to fall too hard.  However, the little skinned knees of life are their own to bandage now.  It is hard for me to let go despite how relieving I think it will be once they get on their big kid panties. I am waiting for the relief to kick in.  Right now, anticipation is all I’ve got.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love matters,


The next 8 hr. Trust Based Parent Training is scheduled for April 23rd and 30th from 12noon to 4pm.  $200 per couple.  Childcare available for $30 each day, second child $10 additional. To sign up email Jen@attachplace.com and she will register you.

Monthly Adoptive Parent Support Group is every second Wednesday of the month from 5:30pm to 7:30pm.  Group and childcare are free.

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