There is a steep learning curve in the course of raising children. Just when you think you have nearly figured out the secret to those complex chemical chain reactions the whole darned chemistry set blows up, and all you have is a mess in the kitchen.
Take heart, sweet parents. In every chaotic mess there is an opportunity to clean up the work space, fine tune the instruments, glean the data, analyze the sequences, and get a little breathing room, so you can start again. Persistence is your friend in the case of solving the parent/child relationship equation.
If your kitchen is blowing up, collect some meta data: What am I forgetting? What am I leaving out? What am I expecting? What is my goal? Where are my resources? Where is my heart? What are the basics–sensory,
environment, connection, correction? What just happened? What did I do? Is there balance? Am I taking care of myself? Is relationship before compliance my mantra? What is the need? What is the point?
Learning curve or not, forward is the only way through. Persist.
P.S. Sneak peek. I am excited to announce that in Sacramento, CA, The Attach Place’s Jennifer Olden, LMFT (Certified Supervisor of Emotionally Focused Therapy) and Robin Blair (EFT intern) are offering a reduced rate “Hold Me Tight” weekend workshop, March 21-23, 2014, especially for parents of attachment challenged children. This workshop is internationally celebrated as one of the most effective ways of strengthening the marriage/couple bond. There is limited space and YOU are the first to know! I will get you more details later this week. If you are interested, you can send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. Stay tuned.
The Attach Place’s next Trust-based Parent Training Course begins March 29, 2014. Click here for more information. This is a link to the registration page.
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