Knowledge Gaps

When a child is hypervigilant, s/he pays so much attention to survival that nuances of how to do things, how to interpret social cues, and how to engage smoothly with others go unnoticed and unlearned.  These are the knowledge gaps that are so mind boggling to parents.

If she can do it here, why can’t she do it there?
If he knows this, why doesn’t he know that?

I call our complex developmentally traumatized children “spiky.”  Sometimes they get things and sometimes they don’t.  The one thing I know for sure:  they are not spiky intentionally in order to make YOU crazy.

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Center for Strengthening Relationships

Love Matters,

Ce Eshelman, LMFT

Sometimes in survival mode and sometimes not.
Oh, if we could only discern the difference.
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