It’s A Fact

Horrible stress changes a kid’s brain.  Abuse and abandonment trauma are horrible stressors.  What adults may see as ADHD or Learning Disability may in fact be the results of trauma-related stress on the brain.
Research shows that the behaviors YOU may be living with in your children, such as:
slow processing
poor attention 
poor concentration
poor decision-making
poor choice-making
tuning out
speech delays
reading and writing problems
lack of memory
are all about stress from trauma.  What normally acts as danger alarms, become alarms stuck on a perpetual fire drill.  Makes it hard to think.
The goal of regulation is to shut off the fire alarm, and only use it when there is actual fire.
Here are some systematic things to work on with your children:
  1. Calm down (easier said than done, of-course).
  2. Get connected (eye contact and hugs will do).
  3. Think it through (process what happened and how it can be different next time with practice).
Ready, set, go.
Love Matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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Skill development is necessary to create new neuropathways.  

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