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I Can't Accept Him | The Attach Place

I Can’t Accept Him

Parents get frustrated, even desperate when they cannot make their child be different (i.e. be good.)  We can even get to the point where we don’t want to be around our traumatized child and have nothing positive to say. I understand that; however, check out this comment, “I can’t accept him this way.”  If you don’t accept your child the way he is, then that same child will not have a cheerleader to encourage positive movement forward. Our children need to see their preciousness in our eyes, even when their behavior is ugly and unacceptable. That acceptance says they are lovable. What if when you heard that snarky tone, processed those mean words, and saw that offensive behavior, you gently requested a correction with compassion in your voice and soft loving eyes?  That would mean you are being a loving parent.  Your child needs love when s/he is being the worst.  Children do bad things when they feel bad about themselves and those around them. Turn the tides by focusing on being love in action and simply correct the offense with your heart intact.  Work very hard not to be a negative mirror to your child.  Instead, be a loving one.  Your child, who is acting out pain, needs the latter more.

Love Matters,

Ce Eshelman, LMFT

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