I know there are times, long periods, when many of you would rather spit than hug. I am telling you this from the bottom of my heart: Do it anyway. Hug your challenging children. Hug them every day when they wake up, before they go to school, when you next see them, when they are angry, when they are sad, when they are happy, when they don’t want to, when you can’t breathe, when you see a little light, when you are fighting the dark, and any time you find yourself confused, hopeless, and clueless about how to go on. If you do that, little by little you will find the real child and the real you beneath the grief, pain, fear, and frustration.