Glimpsing At Normal

I know sharing about “normal” is not a kind way of thinking of people who have children without special needs, but that is our culture.  I am just as acculturated as the the next person despite my depth of knowledge about the realities of children from difficult beginnings.  I must admit that I love it when there is a glimpse of normal unfolding around here.

Yesterday, we had a birthday party arranged entirely by one of the now twenty-year-olds still living at home.  She invited her friends, arranged the time, the “horse doovers,” pizza, soda, and entertainment (cartoons on the TV under music blasting on the iPod). I supplied the cake and the money to pay for it all. At the start I said my hellos, then retreated to my bedroom to allow the rumpus to begin.

Two hours later the noise stopped, so obviously I checked to see if they had all dropped dead from a pizza overdose or something.  No, the guests were gone and the house was completely cleaned up.  Shocking.

Now that I think of it, that was actually not normal for any kid.  I have warm fuzzies in my heart right now for all things good and loving and semi-normal.

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Look for Ce’s Upcoming Book
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Expected Release Date: Feb 27, 2016

Drowning With My Hair On Fire

Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents
Drowning with My Hair On Fire is a compilation of over 175 daily support letters to parents of adoptive children and other children from difficult beginnings.  With a forward by Dave Ziegler, Ph.D. and a brief personal memoir, this publication is a response to blog-reader requests for a book of letters that can be easily returned to day after day, when inspiration is hard to find.
Praise for Drowning with My Hair On Fire
This woman saved our family. This book will save your sanity! After years (and many therapists) of getting it wrong, Ce Eshelman got our traumatized family on the right path to attachment, sanity, and big big love. Ce’s unique therapy is grounded in the latest brain research, her own struggles raising traumatized children, and work with hundreds of families like ours. Her stories, contained in this book, are our stories: full of pain, confusion, hope, faith, love and practical magic that really works.
Elaine Smith, Adoptive Mother
Ce’s daily blog has been a lifesaver, particularly when days are most dreary and hopeless.  Not only have her words of empathy proven to be priceless to our family, but I have often forwarded them on to others.  Such a comfort to feel understood, with no judgment.
Patty O’Hair, Adoptive Mother
In a real sense “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” is a daily mediation of struggle, success, failure and getting up and trying again.  If that sounds like too much to subject yourself to then don’t adopt a challenging child.  And one more thing, shouldn’t we require prospective adoptive parents to read “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” rather than another ‘All they need is love’ manual?
Dave Ziegler, Ph.D., founder of Jasper Mountain Center and author of many books on raising children from difficult beginnings.


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