Fear Is Not Required

One of my children was potty trained and talking at 1.5 yrs. The other was 4 yrs. before either of those things happened. I was frightened by both.
 
One of my children was astute and controlling everything and anything in her worldview. The other was forever a baby, needing help with simple tasks through the teen years. I was frightened by both.
 
One of my children was cunning and shrewd. The other was gullible and passively uncooperative.  I was frightened by both.
 
One of my children used a 10″ butcher knife to threaten her adult step-brother and carve a line in the wall about waist high in every room in our house.  The other foreshadowed this years earlier by meandering toward me with a similar blade, which seemed longer than the arm that was wielding it. I was frightened by both.
 
My fear made me distant.  My children needed me closer.  
 
Go closer.  
 
Get some skin in the game.  
 
Fear less.  Engage more.
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Love Matters,

 

Ce Eshelman, LMFT

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