Don’t forget to let your children emotionally evolve. I wish there were a shorthand way of saying my formerly diagnosed reactive attachment disordered child (FDRAD has so many possibilities), so I can pay homage to the history without sticking my children firmly in the past.
The history is important because there are residual effects of RAD long into adulthood. Still, RAD is not the primary issue into adulthood. The FDRAD issues usually revolve around attention, dysregulation, poor decision-making, lack of motivation, and delayed maturity. While these are significant issues, they are not attachment issues, per se; they are executive function issues.
Poor executive function is the result of regulation difficulties in early childhood due to attachment challenges and trauma on the brain. So, regulation is the ultimate goal of all treatment. Be sure regulation is being addressed in your therapeutic model at every age.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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Take a look at The Zone’s of Regulation curriculum if your therapist hasn’t already implemented it. Turns out it is effective for teaching regulation to any age child or adult (including yourself.)