First, I empathize with YOU. What you are going through every day with your very challenging child is painful and tiring and I know you are on the edge of hopelessness. Me, too. I have felt all of these things, too. I can see you are brokenhearted and desperate to have peace in your family.
YOU can do this, but it will be hard and take all the strength and determination you have. Yes, empathy in the face of trouble is the first step toward turning this all around. It will not be fast and it will not be easy. It will be a daily practice of mindfulness, self-care, and love to be the “adult in the room.” It has taken me years to become that adult. Years. That was my personal journey. Who knew that I had so many childhood wounds that would be healed along the way to learning how to love my attachment challenged children?
Ready or not, this is your journey.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT