Oh man, I am tired of the do-si-do emotions that go on inside myself when I am trying to hold a loving stance without ensnaring my son with my own emotional hooks. I can feel myself emotionally tilt forward with hooks out, then catch myself and pull back to neutral. Then I tilt forward again–hooks out–only to catch myself and pull back to neutral again. Back and forth, back and forth. I am an emotional square dancer, perpetually do-si-do-ing in order to maintain my calm, maintain my love, and maintain my neutrality in the face of shenanigans with giant meat hooks.
I desperately wish for my son and myself a moment of being an introverted and relaxed wallflower. Thanks for the invite, but I’ll sit this one out.
Love Matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
Do-si-do and around we go.
Next Trust-based Parent Course is planned for March 14th and March 15th, 10am to 3pm each day, in a new back-to-back, two-day format. Save the dates.Next Hold Me Tight Couples workshop by Robin Blair, LMFT at The Attach Place is planned for April 17th, 18th and 19th.
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