When you can see your child’s behavior as motivated by hard-wired, complex trauma; when you can see her need for control as self-soothing, and a bid for security and certainty; and when you can see that behavior as fear, deprivation, and attachment panic, you are moving past the usual interpretation of disrespect, defiance, passive aggression, and meanness. When you do that, you are a powerful healing agent in your child’s life.
Love Matters, Ce
Focus on one thing that you enjoy about your child. What you focus on, you get more of.