End of School Feels Like End of Days

Dear Parents: You may be experiencing a recurrence of erratic “beginning of the year” behavior your traumatized child stopped right after last New Year. Oh no, the insanity is back.  What is happening?  Why the regression?  Everything was going pretty well; we must have forgotten to knock on wood or something.  You may be experiencing the re-emergence of full-time survival brain.  The end…

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Mother’s Day Is Every Day

Hello Parents: This day has created one of the most iconic pictures of motherhood–all flowers, breakfast in bed, and celebration with curly-haired, dimpled-faced, adoring children gently dusted with pancake flour.  Some of us mothers are getting a version of that today as spouses, friends, and children scramble to create this hallmark image of happiness.  Some of us are trying to…

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Lies Like Lightning

Dear Parents: Like a lightning bolt, fear strikes the core of our complex traumatized children in nearly all that they do. Once I came home from work and walked in the door to my son beginning a lie before the door had even closed behind me. “I cleaned my room, Mom, but I already messed it up again.” In my…

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Upcoming Trauma Informed Schools Conference

Dear Parents, Teachers are a big part of our children’s daily lives.  Often our kids come home at the end of the school day explosive after holding it together with all their might.  Sometimes, they are reacting all over the school, all day, every day.  In Sacramento, there is an upcoming Trauma-Informed Schools Conference.  Start now lobbying teachers, principals, and school…

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Lagging Skills of Behaviorally Challenging Children

Dear Parents, I just finished a training on Advanced Regulation Skills for parents of behaviorally challenging children from difficult beginnings.  By “advanced” I meant beyond techniques.  Regulation strategies like jumping on a trampoline, doing some jumping jacks, taking a fast walk with the dog, or spinning on the lawn work for ongoing sensory, emotional, and cognitive integration.  Children need to…

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