Feeling Alone Along the Adoptive Parenting Journey

Dear Parent, It can be so isolating to love attachment and trauma challenged children.  They feel isolated, and so do we. Do yourself a favor. Break the barriers. Bust out of the box. Find a support group, and go. Create a support group, and go. Meet other challenged children and exhausted, amazing parents like you. We are all in the same…

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Dear Well-Meaning People Along My Adoption Journey:

Dear Parents, By request, these are some pointers for non-custodial grandparents, extended family members, respite providers, and friends on how to support parents with attachment challenged children.   Dear grandparents, extended family, close friends, and respite care helpers: I want you to know how much your love and support mean to me.  Without you, I would truly be on a…

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Managing Traumatic Days for Adopted Children from Difficult Beginnings

Dear Parents, Parents, of late, are saying similar things over and over to me.  This is a version of how it goes: It feels like the world is coming to an end.  While the world reels from the traumatic events of gun pathology, terrorism, natural disasters, wars, and other crises, the U.S. is experiencing a relatively large uptick in weather disasters,…

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Embrace the Facts

Dear Parents: When you come to the edge of everything you know, surrender. Developmentally traumatized children from abuse, neglect, and abandonment are caught in a terrible double bind.  They desperately need you and they desperately fear and doubt your veracity as a forever parent.  They fear you will harm and leave them so much that they try to beat you…

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You Gotta Get This For Back-to-School

Dear Parents: Last night at our Adoption Support Group one of our resourceful parents shared this GREAT template she purchased for just $10 from a website for parents of challenged children.  This will be the best $10 you spend to support your school age child from difficult beginnings to be successful in the classroom.  It’s the bomb baby! Take a minute to…

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