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Attachment Trauma Adoption Blog for Adoptive Parents

Another Online Group? Yep, A Really Good One, But I’m Biased

Hello Fellow Travelers, In preparation for my upcoming Love Matters Parenting Society monthly online membership, I just opened the doors for online support for anyone who wants to hang out with some pretty cool people.  I mean myself, one staff member, and Karyn (whom you won’t know until you join the group). Starting new things from scratch is kind of…

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Consequences, Hmmm, for Children from Difficult Beginnings

Dear Parents, I am often asked, “When can we use consequences with our child?  You want us to be teaching and supporting brain change, we get it, but when is the brain ready for consequences?”  My first response, Children from difficult beginnings cannot make sense of consequences until they experience felt safety from the inside out. And then, my second…

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Take the Are You Ready To Adopt? Quiz

Dear Parents, I made this little quiz to encourage people to sign up for my mastermind in August, but I thought I would send it to you for fun since most of you have definitely adopted already and don’t need a quiz to remind you. I took the quiz myself from the perspective of where I was when I started…

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7-Reasons Parents THRIVING are Essential for Healing the Hurting Hearts of Traumatized Children

Dear Parents, Children who have been harmed by early neglect, abuse, and/or abandonment have dysregulated brains from the start.  To heal a brain with complex trauma, parents have to be nearly always prepared to ebb and flow as loving role models and co-regulators.  Here are 7-reasons why creating a THRIVING life for yourself matters to the quality of healing for…

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Parenting Adopted Children: Nonsensical Lying Makes Sense

Dear Parents, Nonsensical lying makes sense. It really does if you understand the internal workings of children who come from difficult beginnings. Nonsensical lying is triggered by exactly the same things that trigger emotionally dysregulated meltdowns–PURE FEAR, a pervasive sense of fear of the unknown, fear of authority, fear of change, fear of danger, fear of vulnerability, fear of being…

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