Save Your Words of Wisdom Parents

Dear Parents, Man alive, do we parents talk too much to teenagers–actually to all children.  Why do we do that when we know that even our kindest voice can feel like little pins pricking into their eyeballs? Too graphic? Sorry. Talk less–be slow to fault-find and fast to accept. Back off a bit with parenting and go forward a bit with fun and novelty….

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Fight, Flight, Freeze, Appease, or Lie

Dear Parents, Is your child’s lying a sign of pathology or future doom? Is it disrespectful and an indicator that your child is morally bankrupt?  I know you have thoughts, at least, if not outright accusations leveled toward your child of his/her untrustworthiness.  I sure thought worse and said plenty to my children that I regret before I knew what…

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Parents Doing Their Own Emotional Work

Dear Parents, I don’t usually share other writers’ works because it is like cheating for me; however, this came to me from the “Mental Health on the Mighty” blog and it made me think that you, parents, might like a way to see if your own childhood experiences impact you in any of the ways it has impacted the people…

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Funding Survey For Adoptive Parents

Hello Parents, Here is a link to a survey for parents like you in California who are interested in having a voice in where some grant money gets directed for kids and families.  If you complete the survey and come into my office, I will give you a $5.00 gift card to Target (while they last).  If you don’t come…

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Caring For Your Life–The Great Parenting Challenge

Dear Parents, It has been a while since I stepped up on my soapbox about the importance of self-care for parents, and the last time I made my soapbox case a parent retorted, “And exactly how are we supposed to do that?”  Right.  I didn’t say it was easy to get all your ducks in a row to escape to…

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