Get Your Own Complex Developmental Trauma Symptom List

Hello Parents, While many of you are well-versed in the symptoms of Complex Developmental Trama, I’ve been getting a number of calls lately from parents and therapists asking me questions like: “Is this behavior normal?” “Is this reactive attachment disorder?” “What is this?  Part of normal development or something else?” If you have questions about some of the things you…

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The Little Things

Dear Parents, Yesterday, my son–now 22 years old and living nearby in a supportive housing program for people with mental health issues–texted me this: “Mom can I git dentst?”  I texted back, “Yes, call the dentist office on the corner near your house.”  He responded, “K, wel, I thnking I go out for a walkng and jus goin, cus  I not…

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Attention Is A Need

I work with a number of children who annoy for attention. Attention is attention to them regardless of whether it is positive or negative.  Some attachment challenged children have difficulty being vulnerable enough to seek attention in a pro-social way.  To do that would be to admit that s/he has emotional needs in the first place. And some are simply…

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Tis The Season

Dear Parents, There seems to be very little predictable about the holiday season except how unpredictable they are when you are parenting a child who has trouble managing emotions.  The remedy is to keep your solid routines of everyday life and just say “no” to too much–too much fudge, too much out-of-town family, too much travel, too much stuff, and…

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Time for Hindsight

Dear Parent, This morning I found myself thinking about how hard I tried to get both of my children to fit into “normal.”  I wanted them to want the things for their lives I wanted for them. That’s telling, isn’t it? I eventually let go of these wants, or maybe I was forced by the reality of my children’s lives…

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