World Views of Traumatized Children

Dear Parent, It’s back to school time and, for some reason, I am wanting to write about parent/child relationships that are dogged by early trauma. Every child has an internal working model.  If born into safety and security, children usually feel quite good about themselves, trusting and positive toward their parents and other carers, and find the world to be a…

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Adoptive Children–Precious Still

Dear Parents: Most of us have held a little baby in the first few months of life, right?  Maybe not our own children, but definitely others’ babies.  Some of us parents did get to hold our own adopted children when they were tiny little balls of miracle.  Remember the preciousness you felt heavy in your arms?  So sweet and joyful,…

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July 4th Only: Don’t Miss This Weighted Blanket Sale

Hello Parents: Every 4th of July I send you this great 24-hr sale for weighted blankets.  If your child has sensory issues, these blankets can become loved additions to your household.  They don’t work for every child; however, at this price, why not try one.  I don’t have stock in this company, by the way, just know how expensive these can…

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Healing Hurting Children

Dear Parents: The purpose of parenting is to provide children with unconditional love, kind and consistent care, and socialization to live peacefully and productively in the world. This focus leads to secure adults with internal working models of self-love, reciprocity with others, and compassionate civility toward all.  This takes the entire length of childhood and sometimes long into adulthood to develop.  With…

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The Parent Is The Responsible Party

Dear Parents: I know I have said this before, but it bears repeating:  Parents, not therapists, are the healers of their children’s attachment and trauma. That is a big responsibility, isn’t it?  Yeah, the word “parent” should be replaced by “guarantor” or something like that.  Maybe “responsible party.”   I say it not as an obvious reminder that your children are…

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