Releasing Control to Teens Recovering from Trauma

Dear Parents, There are two vastly different phases to parenting–the first ten years and the second ten years.   In the first ten years, we spend all of our time teaching, coaching, reminding, supporting, protecting, correcting, ad nauseam.  Our job is creating a foundation for the rest of their lives–say please and thank you, don’t hurt people, brush your teeth,…

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No Fear

Dear Parents, My traumatized children never seemed to express fear in the early years after coming home with me.  They took big physical and relational risks, broke all rules, and seemed to be unmoved by my ire.  I came to know this as traumatic dissociation because the longer I lived with them the more I saw that they were afraid…

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Can I Leave My Traumatized Child Home Alone, Ever?

Hello Parents, A common questions I get asked… When Can I leave My Child Home Alone? Every parent wants to know—when is it ok to leave my child at home alone? Whether you and your spouse just want to enjoy a date night or you’re hoping for a quick kid-free trip to the grocery store, it’s important to ask yourself…

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Back Talk–My Fav

Dear Parents, I know back talk is not your favorite thing about parenting children, nor is it mine.  Since I do it, I’m not sure why I dislike it so much, hmmm. Here are a few tips about Back Talk for you to, as my friend Kiki says, “marinade in.” Back Talk is like Ping Pong. You know this, of…

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Another Online Group? Yep, A Really Good One, But I’m Biased

Hello Fellow Travelers, In preparation for my upcoming Love Matters Parenting Society monthly online membership, I just opened the doors for online support for anyone who wants to hang out with some pretty cool people.  I mean myself, one staff member, and Karyn (whom you won’t know until you join the group). Starting new things from scratch is kind of…

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