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Take the Are You Ready To Adopt? Quiz

Dear Parents, I made this little quiz to encourage people to sign up for my mastermind in August, but I thought I would send it to you for fun since most of you have definitely adopted already and don’t need a quiz to remind you. I took the quiz myself from the perspective of where I was when I started…

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7-Reasons Parents THRIVING are Essential for Healing the Hurting Hearts of Traumatized Children

Dear Parents, Children who have been harmed by early neglect, abuse, and/or abandonment have dysregulated brains from the start.  To heal a brain with complex trauma, parents have to be nearly always prepared to ebb and flow as loving role models and co-regulators.  Here are 7-reasons why creating a THRIVING life for yourself matters to the quality of healing for…

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Parenting Adopted Children: Nonsensical Lying Makes Sense

Dear Parents, Nonsensical lying makes sense. It really does if you understand the internal workings of children who come from difficult beginnings. Nonsensical lying is triggered by exactly the same things that trigger emotionally dysregulated meltdowns–PURE FEAR, a pervasive sense of fear of the unknown, fear of authority, fear of change, fear of danger, fear of vulnerability, fear of being…

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Ten Therapeutic Parenting Principles to Snack On

Dear Parents, Here are 10 Therapeutic Parenting Principles; not the only 10 Therapeutic Principles because there are many more. 10 Therapeutic Parenting Principles Be safe parents to attach to.  Safety over compliance is important in therapeutic parenting. Keep your faces and eyes soft.  If you are upset, give yourself a time out to someplace kid free until you can get…

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Not Bad Seeds

Dear Parents, Kids who have been traumatized by maltreatment or by witnessing maltreatment of others have highly developed coping mechanisms.  They are often very serious adapters and adjusters.  Behaviors like aggression, lying, opposition, shutting down, manipulating, stealing, nonsensical chatter, distraction, sneaking, hoarding, lethargy, refusal, and low motivation are all examples of adaptive coping strategies. Be very, very careful not to…

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