Sick of COVID-19? Find the Silver Lining

Hello Parents, Don’t think I cannot possibly understand what you are going through, because I surely can.  Children from difficult beginnings are hard to support 24/7. I can also see the dozens of families who have found the silver lining in this damned Shelter In Place Order. Do you already feel the silver lining?  Have you experienced it?  Is there…

Read More→

Teeny-Tiny Bandwidths of Neurodiverse Children from Difficult Beginnings

Neurodiverse Children have Limited Bandwidths. What does that mean? It means that they have little ability to absorb the stress of intense life events, without negative side effects like emotional outbursts, refusal, opposition, and meltdowns. What can you do to honor your child’s neurodiversity needs? Give them a break.  Seriously, they need you to adjust your expectations of them following a…

Read More→

From Dysmaturity to Maturity with Neurodiverse Children

Dear Parents, One of the realities of raising a neurodiverse child from difficult beginnings is the ever-present challenge of dysmaturity.  That word may be new to you because it is a medical term used to describe a neonatal condition where the baby’s brain has not developed at a typical pace in utero.  Most people prefer to use the term “immaturity”…

Read More→

Releasing Control to Teens Recovering from Trauma

Dear Parents, There are two vastly different phases to parenting–the first ten years and the second ten years.   In the first ten years, we spend all of our time teaching, coaching, reminding, supporting, protecting, correcting, ad nauseam.  Our job is creating a foundation for the rest of their lives–say please and thank you, don’t hurt people, brush your teeth,…

Read More→

No Fear

Dear Parents, My traumatized children never seemed to express fear in the early years after coming home with me.  They took big physical and relational risks, broke all rules, and seemed to be unmoved by my ire.  I came to know this as traumatic dissociation because the longer I lived with them the more I saw that they were afraid…

Read More→