Fix Less, Accept More

Dear Parents, What follows is not criticism.  It is a chance to acknowledge to yourself, “I got this,” or to see you have some growing to do as a parent of children from difficult beginnings.  Personally, I am always the latter, despite all I know.  Here goes. Have you ever been in a relationship where you spent a lot of…

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Sleep Is Key for Parents and Children from Difficult Beginnings

Dear Parents, I know you are well aware that your sleep and your child’s sleep are super important to a happy home. Do you know why?  And, do you know how to set the stage for getting the best sleep?  If you know, don’t read on.  If you are curious, here are the basic facts and a few tips for…

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The Imagination Is Worse Than Reality With Traumatized Children

Dear Parents, As a fellow parent, I know what it is like to be scared senseless by TV movies about attachment challenged children, about News reports of foster children killing parents, and my imagination in the face of truly unbelievable, unrelenting shenanigans by my children. Much of my own dysregulation was caused by my ever-present fear of the future hovering…

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Free This Weekend Only: Better Sleep for Anxious Children

Dear Parents, This weekend only Renee Jain, creator of GoZen (which I really enjoy, too), is giving a free gift  to anyone who wants to listen to 18 Sleep Experts share about improving sleep for children who have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, waking in fear, and/or sleeping with you way past the toddler years. Here is the link.  If your…

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Murphy’s Law: Heaters Bust at the Door to Winter

Dear Parents, Why do heaters stop working the second the temperature outside drops below 50 degrees? Don’t answer that. I am thinking about love. Despite all of my references to love, I am not a particularly touchy-feely person.  I am more of a brutally honest, blunt pragmatist with a huge dose of life experience that led me down a twisty-turny…

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