Some days it is hard to see the forest for the dirty bowls. A few days ago all of my cereal bowls went missing. I thought someone put the dishes away in a new interesting way where the bowls could not be found. Nope, that wasn’t it. I thought someone accidentally broke all the bowls. Nope, that wasn’t it. I thought a bowl burglar broke in and, well, took all the bowls. Nope, that probably wasn’t it.
I asked my husband, the kids, and even had a serious talk with the dogs about the bowl mystery, but no one knew. My son said, “I even noticed this morning that the bowls are missing, but I can’t think of what happened to them.” He opened a bunch of cabinets to see if maybe they were in one. Nope, not in any of them.
When I came home from work yesterday, miraculously all the bowls had found their way into the top shelf of the dishwasher. I was suddenly crestfallen, realizing my son had gone to great lengths to escape my learning the actual whereabouts of the bowls–the ones dirty and hidden under his covers. All of the darned bowls were hidden under his bed covers! Did I mention, all the bowls in the entire house? Okay, I did mention that.
Thought we had nipped this eating in the room, hiding the dirty dishes habit. Really thought we had made it over that hurdle. Nope, back to the drawing board. It may take me two or three days before I can regulate, because right now my dysregulation is over the moon.
Breathing. I’m breathing.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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