I have been keeping a little (read: BIG) secret from YOU, because I learned real quick from family and friends that I was, perhaps, a little out of mind. Then I realized that YOU already know I am a little out of my mind, so why hide from YOU, right?
Okay, as you might recall I tried to move my 18-year-old attachment challenged son out of the house into a sheltered living environment nearby, but caved after his very genuine hiccuping sobs streamed rivers down his face. He clearly wasn’t ready to leave Mom, just because Mom was ready for him to leave.
Fast forward six months and here I am moving my son’s 19 year old girlfriend into our extra bedroom. Stop gasping. I know. Trust me, I know because my husband hasn’t stopped rolling his eyes into the back of his head since I mentioned it to him. As a matter of fact, I am sure they are permanently stuck that way. He looks very silly.
Here’s the thing: She is a severely attachment challenged teen who aged out of a group home straight into a homeless shelter. How is that possible? Of course I have heard of these things happening, but I have never been as close to it as this. She and my son are like mirror images of each other–two peas in a pod, as it were. I just had to open our home. I had to.
I don’t talk a lot about blessings because I am not really that kind of person. However, this decision is a true blessing to me. When I adopted little children, it was not a bit altruistic. It was purely selfish, because I wanted children and couldn’t have them myself. When my kids turned out to feel less than thrilled to have me as their mother, I slowly evolved to the place I probably should have been in the first place–raising children for the love of the children, rather than to meet my need to be a mother. On the flip side, having my son and his girlfriend in the house brings laughter, sweet silliness, quiet sitting, walking the dog, and lively hikes to the gelato store. I feel like I have died and been reborn into a family. Even if the honeymoon only lasts a week or two, I will remember this feeling forever.