When we teach scripts to parents for correcting and redirecting attachment challenged children, the first one is usually Be Gentle and Kind. At various places around the office that direction can be heard throughout the day, every day, every week, all year long, year after year. It takes thousands of repetitions to stick the landing of a new neuropathway.
It occurred to me this morning that my last three Daily YOU Time emails have really fallen under the heading of Re-parenting Parents With the Script Be Gentle and Kind.
I wish I had been re-parented early on to Be Gentle and Kindwith my children. I just did what was imprinted by my parents–Be Powerful and In Control. That was misguided and made a mess of things for quite a while.
So, forgive me for my repetitious re-parenting script to Be Gentle and Kind. I am simply trying to make it stick for YOU and your attachment challenged child(ren). It makes all the difference over time.
Ce Eshelman, LMFT
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