Back to Bed He Goes

Dear Parents,

As you know, I am now in recovery from electronics enabling my son.  I found his last hold out cell phone (generous gift from an equally addicted friend) this morning and put it where all things electronic go–between the mattresses in my bedroom (shhhhh, that’s my secret hiding place).

Just as soon as I confiscated it, my sweet electronics addicted child went back to bed.  If you are a religious blog reader, you know I have been around this corner many times before.  He will stay in bed for 3 or 4 days, wasting away (except when I leave the house and he forages the kitchen), and angry as a hornet.  He thinks he is punishing me by not going to school and hiding out in his room.  You may recall that I enjoy the quiet when he is punishing me this way.

I am sad that my son cannot function if he has even one device, but that is the state of his brain.  I have determined through my persistent, tenacious enabling that he will not reach his full human capacity if he has so much as a rather benign iPod.

The Attach Place

The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships

Biting the bullet is hard on the teeth.

Love matters,


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Drowning With My Hair On Fire

Insanity Relief For Adoptive Parents
Drowning with My Hair On Fire is a compilation of over 175 daily support letters to parents of adoptive children and other children from difficult beginnings.  With a forward by Dave Ziegler, Ph.D. and a brief personal memoir, this publication is a response to blog-reader requests for a book of letters that can be easily returned to day after day, when inspiration is hard to find.
Praise for Drowning with My Hair On Fire
This woman saved our family. This book will save your sanity! After years (and many therapists) of getting it wrong, Ce Eshelman got our traumatized family on the right path to attachment, sanity, and big biglove. Ce’s unique therapy is grounded in the latest brain research, her own struggles raising traumatized children, and work with hundreds of families like ours. Her stories, contained in this book, are our stories: full of pain, confusion, hope, faith, love and practical magic that really works.
Elaine Smith, Adoptive Mother
Ce’s daily blog has been a lifesaver, particularly when days are most dreary and hopeless.  Not only have her words of empathy proven to be priceless to our family, but I have often forwarded them on to others.  Such a comfort to feel understood, with no judgment.
Patty O’Hair, Adoptive Mother
In a real sense “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” is a daily mediation of struggle, success, failure and getting up and trying again.  If that sounds like too much to subject yourself to then don’t adopt a challenging child.  And one more thing, shouldn’t we require prospective adoptive parents to read “Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents” rather than another ‘All they need is love’ manual?
Dave Ziegler, Ph.D., founder of Jasper Mountain Center and author of many books on raising children from difficult beginnings.


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