I work with a number of children who annoy for attention. Attention is attention to them regardless of whether it is positive or negative. Some attachment challenged children
My son has mastered the art of ridiculous questioning to get my attention. For example, “Mom, I’m wondering why it is that I really like to go to those swim parks? Why do you think I like them so much?”
Out of the blue from another child, “One time when I was visiting my grandmother’s farm the dog farted so loud the cats ran into the barn.”
Another child asks, “Can you see air?”
And another, “I noticed cats have big eyes.”
My son, “Mom, I didn’t know you were home. Are you home now?”
Again, my son, “Mom, why do I like cauliflower that way and not the other way? And, “The worst thing to call a teacher is Mrs. P.”
Instead of giving the “go away from me” look of annoyance or the ridicule that might easily roll off your tongue (like it wants to from mine), pull your child (big or small) in for a hug or a close-up of soft eyes with a “love bomb” smile. This is all that is needed: I love you–now run along, Sweetheart. Anytime you want my attention, come ask for a hug.
Attention is a need. Nothing else. Resist the urge to be sarcastic, mean, ridiculing, or angry. Honestly, our children need our attention. Give it to them more when they need it, and the non-sensical crazy stuff will decrease.
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