The Twinkle In Your Eyes Begins With You

Dear Parents: Listen up beautiful people. If you are waiting for your children to have love in their eyes before you have love in yours, you will be waiting a very long time. Your child’s attachment challenged shenanigans may have drained you of your twinkling eyes and made you into a flat, despairing, and sometimes bitter drill sergeant. I’ve been there….

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You Don’t Exist

Dear Parents: If you had a bad habit of mumbling your words or talking a little too loud or too much or chewing vigorously with open mouth at dinner and your beloved ignored you whenever it happened, how might you feel? Ignored? Hurt? Rejected? Shamed? Angered? Furious? Reactive? Rebellious? Oppositional? Bitter? Unloved? Disengaged? Done! Be careful what you are ignoring…

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Painful World View of Some Adoptive Children

Dear Parents, Your mission, whether you choose to accept it or not, is to be the change agent in the worldview of your adopted child.  We all get our personal worldviews between conception and two years old. No kidding. That has always been kind of scary to me. Before we can talk and before we have identities apart from our…

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Plain Talk for Challenged Parents of Challenged Children

Dear Parents:     I often get calls from adoptive parents seeking therapy for their attachment challenged child(ren).  When I share our comprehensive family approach, many are accepting and excited.  Some, however, are white-knuckling every day, worn out to the core, and reluctant to put in even an ounce more energy.  These parents are desperate to get help for their child…

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Sugar Shack Attack In Children From Difficult Beginnings

Dear Parents, Tonight, I met with some great parents who are dealing with the insanity of what I call the sugar shack attack. Their young children will not eat real food–just sweet stuff.  They have pared the sugar down to healthy sweet this and organic fruity sweet that, but they are having a sugar shack attack all the same, and…

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