Type A Parenting Begets Stressed Children

Dear Parents: Sometimes we parents are seriously Type A toward our traumatized children.  We are forever working our kids to be better, be focused, be kinder, be organized, be mature, be motivated, be “normal.”  Wha?  Our kids by definition are working as hard as they can to figure out how to feel safe in their own skins in their adoptive families. This…

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When Your Hurt Child “Hates” You

Dear Parents: Things like this are never easy to hear; unfortunately, you are in the designated hot seat to be the target for: I hate you. I hate everything about you. I wish you never adopted me. I want to kill you. I am going to kill you in your sleep. I hate you and I always will.   And…

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A Bite of Mindfulness Everyday

Dear Parents, Mindfulness is the new, old, buzz word.  Still, more and more research is showing that daily mindfulness has a real impact on brains for the good.  Eastern cultures have known these benefits for thousands of years.  Our children from difficult beginnings have very busy brains–like you don’t know that, right? I image you are thinking “No way, Ce, are…

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Push Back Against the Social Machine: Confront Your Inner Sheeple

Dear Parents, If you frequent The Attach Place much, you know I am single-handedly on a crusade to significantly reduce the use of screens with children from any kind of beginnings, difficult or otherwise. This is in no way an attempt at shaming you for using screens or allowing your children to have screens.  We are all frogs in the…

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Parenting Children Is A Character Builder, For Sure

Dear Parents, My friend and colleague, Jennifer Olden, LMFT, told me she learned this stuff from me, but she flatters me.  Anyway, she is also one of my writing partners, so I get to read some of her stuff once in awhile.  Today, I received this little essay about parenting her perfectly attached, trauma-free, biological children.  Reminded me, parenting is…

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